乱世佳人对21世纪女性的启示

　　Abstract
　　Afamousmanhasoncesaidthatwomenholdhalfthesky。Awisewriterhassaidthathalfthemanisawoman。Infact，womenarejustlikethedeephiddentreasurewhichhasnotbeenexploredcompletely。Itisnotdeniablethatwiththeeconomicglobalization，knowledgeeconomyandChina’sentryintotheWTO，womenhavesteppedintoabiggerarena。Womenhaveabettersenseofinterpersonalrelationship，familyandbusinesssuccess。Theyhavethedesiretobeadmittedbythesociety。Butallthesegoodwishesarenoteasytoaccomplish。Thispapergivessomesuggestionstowomenhopingtogetsuccessincareer，familyandinterpersonalrelationshipthroughtheanalysisofthemaincharactersScarletandMelanieinthefamousmasterpieceGonewiththeWind。Intermsofsuccessincareer，womencanlearnfromScarletandcultivatetheabilityofinnovation，selfconfidenceandselftrust。Asforsuccessinfamilylife，womencanlearnMelanie’strust，respectandlove。Tosucceedininterpersonalrelationship，womencanfollowScarlettousebeautyproperlytoattractothers，andfollowMelanietouseherinternalbeautytowinothers’respectandtrust。
　　KeyWords
　　interpersonalrelationship。
　　摘要
　　有个伟人说妇女能顶半边天，有个聪明的作家说男人的一半是女人。其实，当今世界，唱主角的依旧是男人，女人犹如一座深藏的宝藏，远远没有被挖掘出来。不可否认，伴随经济全球化，知识经济，我国入世等诸多因素的影响，女性的人生舞台得到了极大拓展，其修养意识、交际意识、家庭意识、成功意识等迅速强化。她们渴望社会认可，发挥潜力；渴望魅力四射，展示自我；渴望独立进取，事业成功；渴望婚姻美满，人生幸福，但要真正成为这样的成功女性并不容易。本文通过对《飘》中两个典型女性人物的分析，提出现代女性可从中学习和借鉴的地方，主要是在事业方面可学习斯佳丽的创新意识与能力以及自信；在家庭生活方面可学习梅拉妮对丈夫的信任、尊重以及拥有一颗无限的爱心；在人际交往方面可学习斯佳丽充分利用美丽的外表优势和梅拉妮拥有的微笑、诚实以及友好态度等内在的修养。
　　关键词
　　理想女性；事业；家庭；人际交往
　　Introduction
　　Shakespeare，afamousplaywright，hassaidthatthenameofthewomenwasfrailty。Foralongtime，womenwereslavesofmen。Womenwerevulnerableandcouldnotprotectthemselves，norcouldtheyhavetheirownfateinhand。Whatthewomencoulddowasjusttoobeymen’sorder。（YunZhou，3）
　　Butastimegoesby，withthedevelopmentofsociety，women’sstaturehasimprovedalot。Womenin21stcenturyarenotwhattheywerecenturiesago。Modernwomenhavechangedalotandhavetheiruniquecharactersandfeatures。
　　Withthedevelopmentofadvancedscienceandtechnology，economicglobalizationandthearrivalofknowledgeera，thesocietytodayisnolongerdominatedbymen。Womenhavebeenthemastersoftheotherhalfofthesky。Womencancontroltheirownfateandtheyhavetherighttodecidewhattodoorwhatnottodo。Menandwomenareequal。（XinRan，4）
　　。PresentSocialSituationofWomen
　　Somenovelsandfictionscreatetheimagesofwomenwhoaresuccessfulincareerandgainrespectfrompeople。Buttheseimagesarejustthegoodwishesofthewriters。Thereasonwhythesewriterscreatesuchheroinesispartlythatinreallifeunderthatbackground，womencannoteasilysucceedeitherinfamilylife，careerorinterpersonalrelationship。
　　Anidealwomanisonewhoshouldatleastbesuccessfulincareer，familyandinterpersonalrelationship。Butdonotbescaredofthethreegoalswhichseemdifficulttoachieve。Tobeanidealwoman，onecangetsomeinspirationorsuggestionsfromScarletandMelanie，thetwoheroinesinGonewiththeWind。
　　。SuggestionsonHowtoAchieveSuccessinBusinessforaWoman
　　A。FeaturesandAdvantagesofScarlet
　　Today’ssocietyisfullofseriouscompetitions。Thepressure，aswellastheperplexingsocialsituationmakespeopleworried。Womeneasilygetlostorloseheartfacingthefailureorobstaclesordifficulties。Thenwhatcanwomendoorwhatmeasurescanwomentaketoovercomethedifficultiesandfinallyachievesuccessinbusiness？Let’shavealookatScarletinGonewiththeWind。
　　InScarlet’sera，itwasmen’sworld，andwomenaccepteddoctrinessuchasthebeliefsthatthemenownedtheproperty，whilewomenmanageit。Mentookthecreditforthemanagement，andwomenpraisedhiscleverness。Menroaredlikeabullwhenasplinterwasinhisfinger，andthewomenmuffledthemoansofchildbirth，leastshedisturbedhim。Menwereusuallydrunkandspokeangrilytowomen，whilewomenwereusuallykind，graciousandforgiving。
　　Borninsuchasociety，Scarletwasarebelliousgirl。Atthattimeallmenfeltthat
　　thewifeshouldbeguidedbyherhusband’ssuperiorknowledge，accepthisopinionsfullyandhavenoneofherown。ButScarletintendedtorunthemillherself，whichwasabigshocktoherhusbandaswellasothermenandwomeninthatcounty。Infactseldomhadmanheardofwomeninbusinessanywhereifwomenweresounfortunateastobecompelledtomakealittlemoneytoassisttheirfamiliesinthesehardtimesofwar。Ifwomenreallyhadnochoicebuttoworkandearnmoney，theywouldjustdobakingorpaintchinaordosomesewing，keepboardersorteachorgivemusiclessonandsuchlike。Otherwomenmademoneybuttheykeptthemselvesathomewhiletheydiditasawomanshould。Butpeoplecouldnotacceptwomanwholefttheprotectionofherhomeandventuredoutintotheroughworldofmen，competingwiththeminbusiness，rubbingshoulderswiththem，beingexposedtoinsultandgossipespeciallywhenScarletwasnotforcedtodoit，whenshehadahusbandamplyabletoprovidefoodclothesforher。
　　Scarletalwaysfeltthatwomenhadhardnessandenduranceunknowntomen，despitethatshewastaughtinchildhoodthatwomenwerefrail，tender，sensitivecreatures。Shewasawomanwhocouldhandlebusinessaswellorevenbetterthanmen。Eventhoughshehadbeenbroughtuptobelievethatawomanalonecouldaccomplishnothing，yetshehadmanagedtheplantationwithoutman’help。Shebelievedthatwomencouldmanageeverythingintheworldwithoutmen’helpexcepthavingbabies。Withtheideathatshewasascapableasamancameasuddenrushofprideandviolentlongingtoproveit，tomakemoneyforherselfasmendid。Moneycouldbeherownandshecouldhandleitatherownwill。
　　B。WhattoLearnfromScarlet
　　Fromtheabove，itisclearthatwomenintoday’ssocietyshouldlearnfromScarlettohaveinnovation，confidenceandselftrust。
　　1。Innovation
　　Nowadays，innovationplaysaninitialpartinaperson’successofbusiness。Innovationistheessenceofthehightechsociety。Peoplewholikereadingnewspapers，surfingtheInternetorwatchingTVarefamiliarwiththereportsabout
　　peoplewhobecomerichovernight。Someonehasoncesaidthatatthebeginningthereisnowayintheworld，buttheroadsareformedwhentherearemoreandmorepeoplewalkingonit。Howeverwhentoomanypeoplewalkonthesameroad，theroaddisappears。Thissayingisquitephilosophical。Thenhowtofindanewroadwhenthereisnowayforustowalk？Theansweristobeinnovative！
　　Today’ssocietyisfullofseriouscompetitions，whichisanimportantmotivationtothewholesociety’improvementanddevelopment。Competitionmeansthatyouhavetostruggleagainstothersmaybejustforajob，apromotionormoneyoragoodliving。Peopleoftenthinkitdifficulttofindagoodjob，nottosayastablejob。Sometimeswomenjobhuntersinrealityarelookeddownuponordiscriminatedbytheinterviewersandemployers。Sohowcanwomenhavetheirownfieldinthisworld？
　　Wwomencanalsodoitandevendoitbetterthanmen。Scarletcouldrunthemillwhichwasconsideredasmen’swork。Womenintoday’societycanalsodosuchkindofworkwhichistraditionallyregardedasonlymen’swork。
　　Tobeinnovative，womenshouldcollectthecurrentinformationaboutwhatisapromisingjob。Knowledgeisnecessary。Nowadaysthesocietyisonewithinformation。Womenshouldreadmagazines，newspapersorspendenoughtimeinsearchinginformationthroughInternet。Itwillbeeasierforyoutosucceedifyougaininformationbeforeothers。Soinnovationisthekeyforwomen’success。
　　2。ConfidenceandSelftrust
　　Besidesinnovation，womenshouldalsohaveconfidenceandselftrust。
　　Selftrustisthefirstsecretofsuccess，saidEmerson。Itisknownthatone’slifecouldn’tgosmoothlywithoutdifficulty。Difficultiesorfrustrationaretheobstaclesontheroadtosuccess。Nowthatwecannotavoidtheseterriblefactors，whynotbeconfidenttoovercomethem。Scarletalwayssaidtomorrowisanotherday。WhycannotthewomensaythatTodayImeetandfightagainstthedifficulties，tomorrowIwillmeetthesuccess？Thereisasayingthatconfidenceishalfthesuccess。Beconfidentmeansthatyoushouldalsobeoptimistic。Confidentandoptimisticpeople
　　canbravelyfacetheterribledifficulties。Whenyouhavethoughtoutadreamorplanyoushouldhavetheconfidencetorealizeit。Don’tjustthinkeveryday。Womenmaydreamthatonedaytheywillbearich，elegantladywithfashionabledressesandexpensivejewelries。Buttheyseldomputtheirheartintomakingthemcometrue。Becausetheydonotbelievethemselves。WhycanScarletdoeverythingshedreamsof？Becausesheisaconfidentwoman。CharlesChaplinsaidyouhavetobelieveinyourself。Thatisthesecretofsuccess。Nothingintheworldistoodifficultifyouputyourheartintoit。
　　。SuggestionsonHowtoAchieveSuccessinFamilyforaWoman
　　A。FeaturesandAdvantagesofMelanieinGonewiththeWind
　　MelaniewasanimpressivecharacterinGonewiththeWind。Shewasakind，soft，lovelywomanwhowasdevotedtoherhusbandandfamily。Melaniewasnotabeautifulwoman，butshewasverybraveeventhoughshewasthinasarailanddelicateenoughtobeblownawaybythewind。Butevenwithoutacharmingappearanceshewonherhusband’sheart。Melanieconsideredherhusbandandchildasallshehad。Shewasnotsuitabletogivebirthtoachildandtheprocessofgivingbirthtothefirstchildwasanunforgettableterribleexperienceinherlife。Itwasamother’snaturethatmadehersobravelytoendurethehardness。AftergivingbirthtothefirstchildthedoctortoldMelaniethatshewouldbetternotbepregnantagainorshemightbeindanger。Regardlessoftheadviceandherfeeblehealth，shewasstillsoexcitedandwillingtohaveanotherbabyforherhusband。Butshefinallydiedofmiscarriage。
　　Melaniewasagoodwifewhoknewhowtobuildaharmoniousfamily。EvenwhenMelanieknewthatScarletlovedherhusbandshestilldidnottakesomemeasurestostopherhusbandfromgettingalongwithScarlet。Becauseshetrustedherhusband。WhenpeoplegossipedthatherhusbandhadrelationshipwithScarlet，shewasnotangryasotherwomendid。Atapartyduringwhichallthepeoplegatheredtogetherintendingtoseethefightbetweenthetwowomen，ScarletandherhusbandweresavedbyMelanie’skindness，loveandoutspokentrustwhichhadbeeninher
　　voiceasshecrossedandfacethecurious，maliciouscovertlyhostilecrowd。HowneatlyMelaniehadscotchedthescandal，keepingScarletathersideallthroughthedreadfulevening！Peopleweresomewhatbewildered，buttheywerepolite。
　　B。WhattoLearnfromMelanie
　　Nowadays，familylifeisstillimportantforwomen。Butevenwomenyearsagoalreadyspentmostoftheirtimeonthefamily，therewerestillendlessproblemsencounteringthem。Sohowcanpeoplehaveaharmoniousandhappyfamily？MaybeyoucanlearnsomethingfromMelanie，theotherheroininGonewiththeWind。
　　1。Trust
　　ThebestadvantagewecanlearnfromMelanieis：trustyourspouse。Womenintoday’societysufferfromporcemorefrequently。Theporcerateishigherandhigherthaneverbefore。Onefactoraccountsforthehighporcerateisdistrustbetweenthewivesandhusbands。Somewomencomplainthattheirhusbandsdonotcomebackhomepunctuallyafterwork。Forexample，ifthehusbandshavenotbeenbackaftertheworktime，thewivesmaywonderwhatthehusbandsaredoing。Whydotheyhavesomanyappointmentsofwork？Aretheyreallyworkingovertime？Aretheyhavinganinformalrelationshipwithotherfemaleworkmates？Willtheygodanceorhavedinnerordateotherbeautiful，young，charmingladies？Andsometimewhenhusbandsforgettheirbirthday，weddinganniversary，Valentine’sdayorotherimportantfestivalswhichthewivesregardhighly，thewivesmaysuspectwhethertheydonotlovethemanymore，whethertheyarenotsoattractivetothemorforsomeotherreasons。Withsuchsuspectsinmind，thewivescannotwaitcalmly。Theymayevenemploydetectivestotracehusbands’life。Whenthehusbandsfindwhatthewivesdobehindthem，theymayfeeluncomfortabletostaywiththem。Thenaprevioushappyfamilymaybecomeabattlefield。Sohusbandsandwivesshouldtrusteachother。
　　2。Respect
　　Respectisalsoimportantforahappyfamilylife。Carnegie，afamousAmericanwriter，haswrittenafamousbooktitledtheweaknessofthehumanbeing，inwhich
　　hesaysthatifyouwanttohaveahappyfamilyyoushouldnevertrytochangeyourpartner’shobbits，ideas，etc。Everypersonhashisowncharactersandfeatures。Beingaspousedoesnotmeanthathusbandshouldreshapehisownpersonalitiesorbelieforotherroutineaccordingtotherequirementsofthewife。Ifthehusbandcanacceptwife’suggestions，thatisok。Butifthehusbandreallywillnotchange，womenshouldremembernevertoforcethehusbandtodoit。Eventhoughyoutwoarecouplenow，respectisalsoneededbetweenyou。Respectcanmakethepartnerhavetheirownsecretormaketheotherpartcomfortable。
　　Womenshouldnotonlyrespecthusbandsbutalsothechildren。Intoday’ssocietytherearesomecasesthatthemotherorthefatherreadthechild’sprivatelettersordiaries，whichisagainstthelaw。Everypersonhashisownsecretwhichhedoesnotwanttobefoundbyothersincludingtheparents。Eventhoughtheparentssaythattheydothisbecausetheylovechildrenandcareabouttheirgrowthanddonotwantthemtogetintothetrouble。Butchildrenalsohavesomethingbelongingtotheirown。Sorespectisalsoimportanttothehappinessofaharmoniousfamily。
　　3。Love
　　Besidestrustandrespect，loveofcourseistheessenceofafamily。Somepeoplesaythatmarriageisthegraveoflove。Maybeitispartlybecausethatafterpeoplegettingmarriedthesweetlovewhichmakeloversattractivetoeachotherdisappearslowly。Afamilywithoutloveislikeabuildingwithoutfoundationandframework，thenthebuildingoffamilygetsruineddaybydayuntilallthewholebuildingfallsintopiecesandnothingremains。
　　Peoplesayloveisstrongerthandeath。Melaniehastheenergytotakethedangerofmiscarriageanddeath，whichisbecauseshehasagreatloveforherhusbandandchild。Loveispowerful，whichcanmakeapoorfamilyhappy。Eventhoughsomefamiliesarenotsorichasothers，theyarestillharmoniousonesadmiredbytherichones，forwhattherichfamilieslackisjustwhatthepoorerfamilyhaslove，whichcannotbebroughtbymoney，orbemeasuredbymoney。Loveisvaluable。Loveistheessenceofthefamilyandwomenshouldalwaysbefulloflovewhichmakesherattractiveandmercyandfavorabletoothers。
　　。SuggestionsonHowtoAchieveSuccessinInterpersonalRelationshipforaWoman
　　Interpersonalrelationshipisaninitialpartoflife。Everyoneispartorunitofthisintegratedsociety。Nobodycanliveinthesocietywithoutcommunicationwithothers。Sointerpersonalrelationshipiswhatwomenshouldcareabout。Intermsofinterpersonalrelationship，ScarletandMelanieareoftwodifferentstyles。Bothsetagoodexampletoawomanwhointendstoachievesuccessinthisfield。
　　A。toLearnfromScarletandUseOne’sBeautyProperlytoAttractOthers
　　ScarletinGonewiththeWindattractedalmosteverymanshemet。JustlikeinthefirstparagraphofGonewiththeWind：
　　ScarletO’Harawasnotbeautiful，butmenseldomrealizeditwhencaughtbyhercharmastheTarletontwinsare。Inherfaceweretwosharplyblendedthedelicatefeaturesofhermother，acoastaristocratofFrenchdescent，andtheheavyonesofherfloridIrishfather。Butitwasanarrestingface，paintedofchin，squareofjaw。Hereyeswerepalegreenwithoutatouchofhazel，starredwithbristlyblacklashesandslightlytitledattheends。Abovethem，herthickblackbrowsslantedupwardsShehasthesmallestwaistinthreecounties。（Margaret，3）
　　Scarletknewtheartsandgracesofbeingattractivetoman。Showtolookupintoaman’sfaceandthenropehereyesandbatthelidsrapidlysothatsheseemedakindgirlwithgentleemotion。Mostofallshelearnedhowtoconcealfrommenasharpintelligencebeneathafaceassweetandblandasababy’s。Scarlet’smothertaughtherallthatagentlewomanshouldknow，butshelearnedonlytheoutwardsignsofgentility。Theinnergracefromwhichthesesignsshouldspringshenowlearned，nordidsheseeanyreasonforlearningit。Appearancewasenough，fortheappearanceofladyhoodhadwonherpopularityandthatwasallshewanted。Shehadreceivedproposalsfromnearlyalltheyoungmenintheneighborhoodandmanyotherplaces。Scarletknewwhichdresswouldbestsetoffhercharmsandmakehermostirresistibletomen。
　　Insomedegreewecansaythatbeautifulappearanceaccountshersuccessininterpersonalrelationship。Womenin21stcenturyshouldalsolearnsomethingfromScarlettopayenoughattentiontotheappearance。Eventhoughsomepeoplesaythatdon’tjudgeapersonbyappearance。Itcannotbedeniedthatwomenwithbeautifulappearancearemorelikelytoattractmenandleaveadeepimpression。Lovingbeautyispeople’snature。Aresearchshowsthatevenababyunabletospeakwillsmileatthebeautifulpersonsinsteadoftheoneswhoareugly。Sointerestingandfunny！Butthatisthefact。
　　Beforeattendingapartyordancehall，oneimportantandnecessarythingwomencannotneglectistomakethemselvesup。Forexample，beforegoingouttoanappointmentwithyourcostumersorfriendsespeciallymalefriends，womenshouldchoseasuitabledressorsuitandwithasuitablemakingup。Youcanusealipsticktohavecharminglips。Butremembernottohaveaheavymakingup。Makinguplightlyisalsoasignofrespectforothers。Nowadaysininterviewssomeemployerssaythatduringthejobinterview，thecompanyismorewillingtochoosethosewhomakeupsuitably。Theysaythatgirls’makingupisthesocialetiquette。Itdoesnotmeanthattheemployerslookdownuponthegirlswhodonotmakeupjustbecausewhetheragirlmakesupreflectshersocialknowledgeandcultureofsense。
　　Agoodsayingisthattherearenouglywomenintheworld，whiletherearejustlazywomen。Awomanhavingsomedisadvantagesinappearancecantakesomemeasurestomakethemup。Ifthereisacneorfreckleonyourface，youcanapplysomepowdertokeepthemhidden。Iftheskinofyourfaceisalittledark，youcanapplysomewhitepowdertohaveacomfortableappearance。Peoplecannotdenythatagoodappearanceismoreimpressiveandcharming，attractivethanaplainone。Peoplethemselvesalsofrequentlyhavesuchexperiencethatpeoplearemorelikelytotalkwithstrangerswhoarebeautifulorhandsome。
　　Besidesbeautifulappearance，uniquecharacterisalsoimportantforustolearnfromScarlet。Scarletcouldexpressbravelyherpassiontoherbelovedman，regardlessofothers’criticism。Shemadeabeautifuldressoutoftheoldcurtainduringthewartime。Sshecouldkilltheenemyherself
　　withatinnygunleftbyherfather。Shecoulddanceinthehallwhenshewasstillawidow。Somanyrebelliousthingsshehaddone。Butitwasherpersonalitieswhichwereconsideredtoberebelliousatthattimethatattractedmen’seyes。Shewasalwaysthespotlight。
　　Beinguniquemakesothersdiscoveryourpersonalities，whichmakeyouattractivetothem。Thereasonwhytherearedifferencesamongpeopleistheuniquefeatures。Andofcoursewomenthemselvesshouldcherishandenjoytheirfeatures。Somewomenmayholdthatthereasonwhyitishardtogetalongwithothersisthattheydonotreceiveenougheducation。Shouldwomenfollowstrictlythetraditiontodoeverything？Theanswerisno。Itisnotaproblemforthepeopletobuildinterpersonalrelationshipwithothers。Youngwomenarejustinthetimeduringwhichtheyarelikelytoshowtheirownpersonality。Soifyouwanttobelovedbyothersyoushouldloveyourselvesandyourpersonalities。Andatthesametimeyoushouldalsoacceptother’scharacter。Beinguniqueisnecessaryforwomen。
　　B。toLearnfromMelanieandUseOne’sInternalBeautytoWinOthers’RespectandTrust
　　ScarletisbeautifulbutMelanieisnot。Melanieisjustacommongirlwhodoesnothavethecharmingappearance。ButsheisalsoasattractiveasScarlet。
　　ThedescriptionofMelanie’sappearanceisasfollows。
　　Melaniewasatiny，fraillybuiltgirl，whogavetheappearanceofachildmasqueradinginhermother’senormoushoopskirtsanillusionthatwasheightendedbythesky，almostfrightenedlookinhertwolargebrowneyes。Shehadacloudofcurlydarkhairwhichwassostemlyrepresentedbeneathitsnetthatnoraganttendrilsescaped，andthisdarkmass，withitslongwidow’sspeck，accentuatedtheheartshapeherface，toowideacrossthecheckbones，toopointedatthechin。Itwasasweet，timidfacebutaplainface，andshehadnofemininetricksofalluretomakeobserversforgetitsplainness。Shelookedandwasassimpleasearth，asgoodasbread，astransparentasspringwater。Butforallherplainnessoffeatureandsmallnessofstature，therewasasedatedignityabouthermovementthatwasoddlytouchingand
　　farolderthanherseventeenyears。（Margaret，121）
　　Melaniewaslikeherauntinmanyways。Shehadhershyness，hersuddenblushes，hermodesty，butshedidhavecommonsense。Melaniehadthefaceofashelteredchildwhohadneverknowanythingbutsimplicityandkindness，truthandlove，achildwhohadneverlookeduponharshnessorevilandwouldnotrecognizethemifshesawthem。Becauseshehadalwaysbeenhappy，shewantedeveryonearoundhertobehappy，oratleast，pleasedwiththemselves。Tothisend，shealwayssawthebestineveryoneandremarkablekindlyuponit。Therewasnoservantsostupidthatshedidnotfindsomeredeemingtraitofloyaltyandkindheartedness，nogirlsouglyanddisagreeablethatshecouldnotdiscovergraceofformornobilityofcharacterinher，andnomansoworthlessorsoboringthatshedidnotviewhiminthelightofhispossibilitiesratherthanhisactualities。
　　Becauseofthesequalitiesthatcamesincerelyandspontaneouslyfromagenerousheart，everyoneflockedabouther。Shehadmoregirlfriendsthananyoneintownandmoremenfriendstoo，thoughshehadfewbeaux，forshelackedthewillfulnessandselfishnessthatgofartowardstrappingmen’shearts。
　　FromtheabovewecanknowthatMelaniewasreallynotabeautifulpersonwithcharmingappearance。Whatmadeherappreciatedbyotherswasherinternalbeauty：smile，sincerity，andkindness。
　　1。Smile
　　Smilehasanunconsciouscharmtopeopleininterpersonalrelationship。Peoplewillnotrefuseapersonwhosmiles。Smileplaysanimportantroleininterpersonalrelationship，whichcancreatemiracleinlife。Shakespeare，afamousEnglishplaywriter，saidthathewouldprefertobemadehappybyafoolratherthantobemadesadbyacleverperson。Everypersonwantstohaveahappylife。Ifwomenwanttobuildagoodinterpersonalrelationship，firstly，sheshouldmakeotherhappyinsteadofsadorgrieve。Smilecanchangeperson’canmakepeoplefeelateaseandcomfortableandmakepeopleeasytogetalongwith。Peopleenjoymakingfriendswiththesewhosmilefrequently。Soinsomedegreesmileispowerful。Howcanwomenkeepsmilingfrequently？Tosmileyoushouldhaveanoptimisticpsychology。
　　Nowadaysmostpeopleareworriedabouttheheavyburdenandpressurefromallaspectsoflifewhichpreventthemsmiling。Butsuchsituationcanbechanged。Thegoodweapontofacetheseworriesissmile。Smilecanmakepeopleattractivewhichwillshortthedistancebetweenpeople。
　　2。Sincerity
　　Sincerityisalsoimportantifwomenintendtobuildharmoniousandlonginterpersonalrelationshipwithothers。Sincerityisakindofmerit。Infactsincerityisalsonecessaryforbusiness。Aninsincereemployeeisperhapsable，byhercleverness，toconvinceherbossthatsheisthebestintheworldandindispensabletotheinstitution。Butastimegoesbyherbossandworkmateswilldiscoverherdisadvantageandevilspirit，thennoonewillliketoemployherorworkwithher。Today’swholesocietycallsforsincerityandhonesty。Peopleliketomakefriendsandkeeptouchwiththesewhoaresincere。Whatdoesfriendshipmean？Peoplemayconsidersincerityasthequalitytochooseafriend。Honestyisthebasisofallinterpersonalrelationship。Thesewhoaredishonestwillnotgivepeoplegoodimpression。Welovesincerepeople。Wealsolovetobeknownassincerepeople。Sincerityisgenerallyunderstoodtobetruthinwordandact。Onlysinceritycanmakewinother’strust。Trustisakeytoagood，longrelationship。
　　3。Kindness
　　Kindnesscanalsobringaboutagoodinterpersonalrelationship。Kindnessisalanguagethatthedeafcanhearandtheblindcansee。Kindnessisaspecialthingofloveandloveisthebestlanguageamongpeople。Kindnessmeansthatyouarewarmhearted。Whenpeoplearoundyoumeetdifficultiesorwhentheyfeelsadyouwilloffertohelpthemoutofit。Warmheartedpeoplegiveothersthefeelingthattheyareeasytogetalongwith。
　　Trytoshowalittlekindnessandjustshineyourlightforotherstosee。Kindnesscanbeshowneverywhere：inyourwarmgreetings。ForChinesepeople，whenwemakefriendswithothers，wefirstconsiderifheorsheiskindornot。Becausekindnessisthebasicvirtueapersonshouldhave。Ifoneisnotkind，itmeansthatheorsheisevil，troublesomeorodious。
　　Thefundamentalrespectingprincipleistoshowyourkindnesstoothers。Yes，showalittlekindness，andyouwilloverlooktheblindnessofnarrowmindedpeopleonthenarrowmindedstreets。
　　Conclusion
　　Fromwhathasbeendiscussedtheaboveaconclusioncanbedrawnthatwomenhavewakenedfromthelongsleep。Today’swomen，holdinghalfthesky，aremastersoftheirownfate，whichbringthemgreatdesiretoachievewhattheydreamof。Anidealwomanshouldbesuccessfulincareer，familylifeandinterpersonalrelationship，whichisnoteasytoachieve。Butwomenneednotbescaredbythesedifficultiesonthewaytosuccess。WomencangetsomeinspirationfromGonewiththeWind。Intermsofsuccessincareer，womencanlearnScarlet’sinnovation，confidenceandselftrust。Asforsuccessinfamilylife，womencanfollowMelanietoholdthetrust，respectandlovefortheirspouses。Astosuccessininterpersonalrelationship，womencanlearnfromSlearnMelanie’sinternalbeautysuchassincerity，kindness，andsmile。
　　Womencandowhatmendoandtheycanevendobetterthanmen。Womencanachievesuccessincareer，familylifeandinterpersonalrelationshipatthesametime。Sowomenshouldbravelypursuewhattheyhopefor，andwithalltheireffortswomenwilleventuallysucceed。
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